To what do degree do psychological wounds and life trauma, especially unmet childhood needs and childhood trauma, influence the different beliefs and opinions we hold?
In my own case I came to see that generalising my own personal experiences to all situations was not a terribly good metric for me and by learning alternative coping mechanisms for coping with the feelings of fear of rejection, acceptance and status projection and so forth I have found some measure of inner peace. Understanding the dynamics in both directions, looking to the root of my own reactions and listening to what people say or are not saying, learning to seek clarification have all helped me with an ongoing process of finding harmony with others and myself/selves.
I was diagnosed with Bi Polar disorder in my late 20´s it was not really until my mid 40's that I got the hang of managing my actions at both extremes of my own perceptual apparatus. I have never taken any medication but have found that seeking Balance and practising balance has had a cumulative effect in helping me to live with my selves and those selves as experienced by others. Without the huge amount of help I have had professionally i do not think I could thrive as I now do within in my Family here in Sweden.
Scaled up to a societal level balance seems lacking almost as a default setting, which saddens me, I used to Joke that most problems in society could be solved by giving people an Apple Mac computer instead of a Windows computer, having discovered GNU/ Linux and Richard Stallman I think there is more truth in that than I actually realised. Freedom of Thought and deed rests in our true selves, we protect that precious part of ourselves to the extent that we hide it so well we often can not find it ourselves , we are all Chained to a rock of expectation much as Prometheus was yet we have forgotten or may not know that we are. I have linked to this essay before in our various discussions Ricky.
When I read this I felt I had found my Slippers and Pipe besides our Log Burner.